I’m often asked by my mentor coaching clients, how to stop clients who speak a lot, including if, how and when to interrupt a client. That’s a great inquiry! Here are some of my thoughts and different ideas, which have...
Category: #7 – Direct Communication
Normalizing Conflict
Hands up anyone who enjoys being in conflict with someone? Conflict is a serious disagreement or argument with someone where there is often a ‘winner’ and a loser’ mentality. Maybe some people enjoy conflict, yet for the majority of people,...
Coaching is like playing tennis…
I’ve recently been using this metaphor with mentoring clients, to convey how a coach engages with their client. Metaphor is a direct form of communication, as it cuts through a lot of words and mental churn. Through metaphor, our client...
Distinctions on observations comments and intuitions
May I make an observation? Who is willing to say no? Anyone? My observation is when this question is asked of a coaching client, they don't say no. So what is the purpose of saying this rather than just making...
Effective use of visual language
Imagine you are walking down a path with beautiful trees on either side. The sun is shining through the trees, creating a soft glow of light on the path ahead. There’s a puddle and you easily jump over it. As...
Speech is Silver and Silence is Golden
You may have heard the saying, “Silence is Golden.” When I did some research on this saying, I found that it is a part of a saying that goes, “Speech is silver and silence is golden.” In many cultures or...
Simplify Simplify Simplify
As coaches, we are oriented to helping our clients to become the best version of themselves, to believing in their capabilities, and to support in their confidence to achieve what it is they are seeking to. One of the temptations...
The Power of Offering Observations
As coaches, we have our #1 “Power Tool,” which is our ability to craft open-ended questions, that allow our coaching client to dig deeper into their self-knowledge for what they already know, believe or feel about something they are exploring....
Creating Awareness and links to learning
I’m currently in an inquiry to more deeply understand the Creating Awareness PCC Markers because I notice that these markers are often missing when I assess coaching recordings, and they are also very relevant for MCC skill level. As an...
Coach the Emotional Content of your Client
One of the most powerful distinctions I can offer coaches I’m mentoring toward MCC skill level, is to coach the whole human being (the Who) and especially the emotional content of their client. Emotion is what drives us as human...